Everybody Has Haters

If you are trying to live a better life, you will have haters.

It doesn't matter what field you are in, there will always be people who try to tear you down or make you feel less than. And more than likely, your haters will come from your own family or friends.
I've experienced this more lately within my circles, and I can't help but find it ironic how much more it's happened almost synonymously with my personal successes.

I've always been extremely sensitive to criticism when it comes from loved ones. However, I've discovered sometimes the people we've grown attached to are not worthy of that kind of care. I've met women in the past few months who are genuinely there for me and support me more than friends who have known me for years. 

Social media can be poisonous to some. It is purposely curated and designed to show only the highlights from people's life. However, don't believe for one second that anyone is living the perfect life. There are struggles you may never know going on behind the social media curtain. While I try to spread more positivity and creativity onto my platforms, it has at times backfired through my personal relationships.

For example - I never did get an explanation for why, but an old, close friend unfollowed me, started cyberstalking my account, and directly copycatted my captions and edits. It was unnerving. Despite trying to directly make contact and understand what was going on, I never did get a real answer. While terse, the reply I did get summed it up pretty well: "People change." 

And you can't do anything about it sometimes.

Here's an unspoken truth: it HURTS letting go of toxic people. You would think it would be easy, but far from it. Because at my core, I still care. I still think of the memories from before, the ones filled with laughter, shared tears, and boy crazy rants.

But you know what? After being on the receiving end of all of that, it's only spurred me on to continue pouring out positivity, love, and support for others! The more successful another woman is, the more I count it as a win for all of us. Cheer them on, support their endeavors, and be inspired by their triumphs!

Have you experienced an old friend becoming a hater?

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