OOTD // Comedy Night
|Tee: Aeropostale Skirt: Forever 21 Jacket: thrifted Bag & Sunglasses: H&M|
(AKA: which was months ago, so I'm digging through archived photos to make a post).
We wandered the downtown area before the show and took a few photos along the way. All in all, I've got to say this whole jacket-tied-around-the-waist trend is my favorite trend to ever happen. My inner 90's child is reveling in this trend! Anyway, not much else to say outfit-wise. I'm still loving my dark colors, albeit this army green jacket has sneakily been coming to the forefront of almost all my outfit choices lately. It's a thrifted find that's definitely becoming an invaluable favorite!
So I never shared this little story, but last semester, a classmate from one of my morning classes plopped himself next to me and said: "Hey Linda, can I talk to you after class today?"
"Oh, sure," I said quizzically, wondering what it could be about. We were working on group projects for the class, but we weren't in the same group, so I wasn't sure what it might be about. He was a nice guy from Nepal that I'd talked to at the beginning of the semester, but we hadn't interacted much since.
At the end of class, he walked with me out the door and started amiably chatting about the doodles he'd seen me sketching and complimented my drawing. I kept up the small talk all while steering our path towards my next class, wondering what he had specifically wanted to talk to me about. I had a feeling I knew what it was, and when he finally got to the part of awkwardly asking for my number, I knew I was right.
"You seem like such an interesting person," (he motioned towards my outfit of the day at that part, which made me inwardly giggle) "I would like to get to know you better. Do you think we could hang out outside of class?"
He asked in such a nice way I figured it wouldn't hurt to give him my number.
Besides, I was in a hurry to get to class, I didn't want to go through the whole awkward spiel of "I'm not interested in dating right now" with him. Albeit I did that later, after he invited me to get coffee the next day. After taking a long walk with coffees in hand and easily carrying on a pleasant conversation, I was sad to know that I was not attracted to him the way he was to me. However, I've been getting better over just the past few years at being more assertive and outspoken on these issues. There have been one too many instances where "being nice" did not play out in my favor.
Thankfully, he was quite amicable about my friend zoning him (a term I've come to dislike immensely, because to be clear, the friend zone is not real. It's a place guys have invented to make themselves feel better about rejection. We're either dating or we're not, nothing more to it). It always sucks, but it's best to be clear and upfront right away to avoid awkwardness in the future! This is a lesson I've learned previously the hard way...
Any instances like this happen to you? How have you handled unwanted crushes?
Happy October lovelies! I'm hoping to find some time to get into full October mode and have a more fall-themed post for you next time! What would you like to see more of on here?