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Happy Valentines Day :: The Hardest Relationship Ever

It's a day dedicated to love, and whether you're single or in a relationship, everyone can celebrate! I'm glad to see more and more posts about "Galentines" celebrations, because sadly, this day has mainly been marketed to couples. The result is that most people whine about being single, particularly on this day. 

To those who are feeling morose about their solo adventure as an awesome individual, I'm here to reiterate things you probably already know in your mind, but will hopefully make it's way to your heart soon.

Just because you're single does NOT mean you are undesirable.
Just because you're single does NOT mean you are less of a person. 

Sometimes these are thoughts that I wrestle with because of the inordinate amount of friends who are currently in the midst of dating, relationship commitments, engagements, marriage, or building a family. However, when faced with these constant reminders of the different places we are in life, I realize that my position is no less or more than theirs. 

Here's a quote from a really good article I read lately, and I feel like sharing it today:
We know our worth does not rest in these heart shaped chocolates or the affections of another, and we continue to put our energy into living boldly, fiercely and free, seeking to show Christ to others in our day to day actions. Occasionally we may feel a little discouraged, but Valentine’s Day shouldn't be a reminder of what we don’t have, but rather a reminder of how much we have to bring to the table and the love already present in our lives.

Of course, I'm posting this from the perspective of a single person, but to all the happy couples out there, I can cheerily wish you a Happy Valentines day - and I hope you can do the same to me! Because love should be a universal concept that can be wished to everyone, no matter their relationship status. :)

As for my plans for the day, I'm working a morning shift at the coffee shop, planning on taking a nap in my coziest pjs afterwards, snacking on a few of my favorite chocolates, and then taking myself out to see Odesza in concert! 

So I hope you all feel loved today, this weekend, and every day after that. Most especially by yourself, because self love is the hardest relationship to maintain. 

Happy Valentines Day everyone! 
Love, Linda

13 comments

Vanessa A said...

Great post! Love that quote from the article! Hope you are having lovely day!

Xo, Vanessa (Delightful Sunflower)

Amanda chic said...

Lovely post


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Toks - Amy Ramírez said...

Lovely post Linda. Happily I don't feel a bit unloved, I'm celebrating Valentine's Day alone by choice as I suspect you are. Soooo, Happy Velentine's xoxoxo

caffinatedlove said...

There is SO much pressure put on girls to find their identity in relationships! You are such a strong, independent girl who is confidant in herself and I'm glad you are a blogger who can spread that self-love attitude allll around. :D

Your day sounds perfect, actually. J and I tried to go to brunch but everywhere was so full we came back home, made brunch, and watched comedy for a bit and then gave each other our gifts. It was actually nice. :)

love,
a

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Keit said...

Meh, relationships are overrated! :D Seriously though, when I was younger I hated Valentine's Day, I was alone and fugly as hell and it didn't help that all my friends were celebrating and receiving gifts. Now when I'm 25 and more cynical I finally realized that first you need to be happy and fulfilled alone and the rest will follow.

Mica T said...

Very wise words Linda!

I hope you had a wonderful valentines day, and you really felt the love! From yourself, from God and your friends and family! :)


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Carla Florendo said...

very well said Linda! Even though i haven't been single in a really long time, i'm a firm believer that valentines day should not just be celebrated or marketed by and towards couples because love isn't just for two people but for everyone.
Happy Valentines day to you Linda dear!

oh and when you do get a chance, please do join the giveaway on my love =D

Love lots,
Carla
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Kati said...

In Europe, Valentine's Day is not such a massive thing, and I'm grateful about that. I sometimes think it's bit tacky and unneccessary...and no, I don't say this out of jealousy or being frustrated, I'm in a happy relationship! ;-)

-Kati

Lily Fang said...

I completely resonate with you, Linda. I was actually contemplating writing a similarly-themed post earlier this week, but lack of time got me, so I'm happy to see yours! It's really easy to feel wistful amidst all the cute couples, but you're absolutely right--we're surrounded with the deepest love; that of our friends, family, God. Thanks for the reminder :) I also read this article and love Relevant mag.

Also, glad to hear you're settling into school! I'm glad you felt at home in the Christian community and are able to keep working at a job you love. While it's a little different, I'm sure you'll adjust soon if you haven't already.

Sending you much love and prayers that everything keeps going smoothly!

Lily Fang said...

I completely resonate with you, Linda. I was actually contemplating writing a similarly-themed post earlier this week, but lack of time got me, so I'm happy to see yours! It's really easy to feel wistful amidst all the cute couples, but you're absolutely right--we're surrounded with the deepest love; that of our friends, family, God. Thanks for the reminder :) I also read this article and love Relevant mag.

Also, glad to hear you're settling into school! I'm glad you felt at home in the Christian community and are able to keep working at a job you love. While it's a little different, I'm sure you'll adjust soon if you haven't already.

Sending you much love and prayers that everything keeps going smoothly!

Sandra Leiva said...

Nice!

xx

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Kim Alston said...

Really beautiful message Linda! So many need to hear that.
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Marlen said...

I honestly don't even get how this anti valentine's day trend started for single people. You dont need a hunnie to join in! Me and my best friends actually ditch our boyfriends on valentines day and go out to a fancy dinner just us three, haha. There are so many people to love in your life! Love the uplifting reminder in your post- I hope it helped some gals :)

xo marlen
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