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Let's Get Real: S.A.D. (Single Awareness Day)

(To all you lucky gals who are madly in love and in a happy relationship, this post is definitely not for you! Haha, while we're happy you've found your special someone, this post was written up for all the single girls who are dissatisfied with their relationship status.)

It's been a week since Valentines Day, and the hype over romantic dates and being in love (which, by the way, I think is ridiculous, because if you love someone you should show that 365 days a year, not just on one specific date) has somewhat faded. Finally, everyone has returned to their normal routine. 

However, I'm still struck by just how much this over-marketed holiday seems to affect single people. On the Facebook realm that day, there were many dry, ironic statuses along the lines of:
"Happy single awareness day."
"Well, another year all by myself - yay!"
"I hope Cupid dies a horrible and lonely death."
etc.

Why do single people have to hate on love so much? Have we forgotten that there are SO many other types of love than just the romantic kind? Are we so focused on finding that significant other that we forget about our other passions in life?

After a whole day of hearing my single friends whine about their status, I was honestly irritated. Yes, I understand desiring a "cuddle buddy" or just having someone that makes you feel loved and treasured. However, our self value should never hinge on whether we have a significant other to make us feel important. We should find the qualities we admire in others and strive to achieve them ourselves.

Right now, I'm growing my confidence in myself as a single girl. More than anything, I want more young girls to realize the importance of this. I don't want to be alone in this endeavor! I want to one day be a woman who knows herself, is strong and independent, and understands that whether there's a man in my life or not, I'll be fine. That will all happen in it's own time. Until then, I can drift through these different phases of life, happy to pursue what I want without having to worry about running into decisions that could make or break a serious relationship.

Because when you're with someone, remember that you no longer can make choices solely for yourself. I mean, you can, and if you're lucky, your partner will be the one to bend over backwards to meet your needs. But I feel like a good relationship would be one where both people are willing to compromise for the other. 

It's a beautiful thing to be in love, but it's just as beautiful to be content and joyful when you're on your own.

PS: So to all you girls with that special someone in your life, please know I'm not putting down your status! Aha, I'm just saying that there's a time to be single in everyone's life, and it's a great opportunity for growth. :)
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24 comments

Mitha Komala said...

awesome post! true quotes there <3

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Alexandra Zakharova said...

Golden words. If you can't help yourself to be happy, then no one else would do that for you. Great post, Linda!
Wishing you restful weekend!

Ali Hval said...

Yup, everything you said here is so true, Linda!! I'm glad there are people out there who realize there's more to life than attaching a significant other to yourself. Self-love is just as important as loving others.

Also, Valentine's Day is just a great day in general to remember to love those who are around you--family, friends, teachers, etc--and bake them cookies and give 'em bear hugs. ;)

Stephanie Louise said...

Everything about this is true and real! I tell myself all the time, you won't find love and be happy with another man if you aren't happy with yourself and love yourself first. Many of them are so desperate for attention they forget to take care of their self. Thank you for sharing this with us. xx

Sandra Leiva said...

Great words!

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Jessica Mattioli said...

Great post, so true!!!!

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czarianonuevo said...

This is such a powerful post Linda! I absolutely agree with what your pinpointing here. Happiness indeed should come from within. Being single doesn't mean a sad life. Being single means having the chance to discover and explore life. Discover your likes and dislikes and determine what really makes you happy.


Thanks for bringing this up. I had a wonderful Valentine's Day spent with good friend :)


czarina :))

Wynne Prasetyo said...

this is so true! couldn't have said it any better. it has not been easy convincing my single friends to think this way when i am in a position of having a boyfriend, they think i don't know what they are going through, but really i do! because i've been single and heartbroken but i convince myself the exact same thing you had here in this post, and i believe more people should do that.

Kirsten said...

Hey, it's me! Yeah, that attitude of "singles awareness day" bothers me too. But it starts right down at the core. Valentines day celebrates love. What is love? How can anybody understand love if they don't first understand Who created true love? How can anybody love someone else if they don't first understand how the Creator of that love truly loves them?
The goal for a Christian shouldn't be to get married by 24 or make peace and happiness with yourself. Our goal should be to seek the Lord above and beyond all else. Live our lives in obedience and submission to Him. In that He will give us happiness, peace, joy, and hope. And if it is His will that we have a significant other, He will bring that person into our lives and us into theirs.

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Marlen said...

AMEN to this! I don't really get why people get bummed out over the holiday. I'm single this year and I was excited for it- I knew my dad would buy me chocolates and I went out to a fancy pants dinner with my friends. Just because you don't have romantic love doesn't mean you have NO love :)

And I personally am loving the whole selfish aspect of being single. It's kinda nice doing what you want when you want it :)

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Mica T said...

Well-written post!

It's when we are single that we concentrate on ourselves to make that next relationship better. And when we have more time to spend with friends and family <3

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Chezka Cenon said...

There are many things great about being single. Yeah, sure now Im in a great relationship, but I've been there. You realize things about yourself once you get over the obstacle of having to see everyone's googly eyes on valentines and what not. It's great having time to do your thing, and that freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want it, without having to think of your partner.

And when you're ready and happy and confident with yourself, a partner will come naturally :) Enjoy the single days Linda!

- Che

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Chezka Cenon said...

There are many things great about being single. Yeah, sure now Im in a great relationship, but I've been there. You realize things about yourself once you get over the obstacle of having to see everyone's googly eyes on valentines and what not. It's great having time to do your thing, and that freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want it, without having to think of your partner.

And when you're ready and happy and confident with yourself, a partner will come naturally :) Enjoy the single days Linda!

- Che

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Sampada said...

Self-love is so important as is appreciating all sorts of love. I think people get too caught up in the gimmicky bit of the hallmark holiday to remember that it's simply a reminder of love--not necessarily the romantic kind.
It's not easy though -- the commercial aspect of the holiday is so in your face that some people feel the need to share the day with a significant other. So I don't entirely blame them...but what does get on my nerves is Singles Awareness Day -- as if being single is some sort of undesirable condition or disability. There is so much more to life!
Great post though, Linda...you tackled an important point that more people need to be reminded of!

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Hoda Katebi said...

Aw this is such a beautiful post! And so well written! I agree with you, too! I am totally embracing being single, because it's so free and independent! Great post c; xx

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Summer Berries said...

I loved this post! I totally agree with you that you have to learn how to be happy on your own and not expect to be happy only when you're with a guy.

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Joyce said...

Agreed! I decided to hang out with my friends on Valentine's day and it was a lot of fun :) Nothing wrong with being single!

Ohhh and I have the same shoes as you (the cut out booties from justfab) from your post before! Love how you styled them :)

Melisa Affandy said...

haha love the quotes!
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Ellysee Rubin said...

Love love looovveee it!! xx

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Sam said...

This is so beautifully written Linda, you are truly wise beyond your years, I agree, there are different types of love and when the time is right, it will happen for those wonderful single gals too. Happy Monday Darling, hope its an enlightening one.

ivette said...

Perfect quote, perfect post!
I needed to read this.
Thanks for reminding us that love comes from within :)

Renae of Simple Sequins said...

Oh Linda! You are so great to post this post. I have been single many times in my 60 yrs, let me tell ya. My hardest time was after my 2nd husband died. I was a widow for 9 years. It taught me great independence and self reliance that I didn't know I had in me. There is nothing wrong with being single. There is everything wrong with being in a relationship that is bad. Of which I was in my first marriage.

So I guess my theme here is:
Been there, done that. lol

Take care my sweet, take care. ♥

Maiken said...

I agree, every girl has been single and single is not that bad. it's better than a guy who doesn't care about his girl. but when a girl finds that guy who does care then yeah, single is not great anymore :P so yeah, it all depends and we have to live according to the current life situation :)

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