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Floral Wedges & Love Talks


Outfit Details:   Dress: c/o Stylezi   Vest: (thrifted) DIY   Wedges: c/o My Hot Shoes

The warm weather is infecting my style, and I've felt very soft and girly lately, so its coming out in my wardrobe.
You know how long I've wanted some floral shoes in my closet? Well, when My Hot Shoes sent these over to me, I just had to wear them ASAP! Haha, they're so much fun. I adore the print and color of them. Funnily enough, the pedicure I gave myself happened to match. It was just meant to be!


So my story for today involves a conversation between me and my friends Kevin and Rueben. They came up with some interesting points that kind of stuck with me. 
It was yesterday that Kevin made a comment about how he had to mix it up and couldn't be nice all the time. When I inquired as to what he meant, he told me, "You know, to keep a girl's interest a guy can't be sweet all the time. Otherwise she gets bored."

Yeah, my response was something along the lines of "WTF!?"


Then he asked Rueben for backup, and he joined in. After they explained it to me, I found it did make a little sense...sadly.

So their reasoning behind not being sweet all the time? Because if a guy is doing grand gestures constantly, he has to keep topping the last act of sweetness he did. Otherwise the girl won't appreciate the new show of affection if it doesn't supersede the last one.

Ring: (redeemed via Chictopia) shopGoldie   Necklace: c/o Wholesale-Dress

Their theory is that if they act casual and not all lovey-dovey, the girl will appreciate it when they do show their sweet side. 
I just told them they needed to find better girls to date. Haha, to which they responded, "What? You're not like that!?"
After some thought I said, "No...at least I'd like to think I'm not."


I've been mulling over it though. See, having guy friends means you can get a glimpse into their minds, and its been interesting. At least now I can see how they think!
In a way, they had a point. I remember when Sam (my ex) would shower me with gifts and do constant acts of adoration. It actually got on my nerves after a while. Of course, it was because the attention got smothering and he acted quite possessive and controlling that made the relationship fall apart.


Personally, I think a guy can show his sweet side in a different way than just trying to buy your affection. And that's what I'd appreciate. Acts that are simple and heartfelt would be something I'd never grow bored of.


I'll have to tell them that the next time it comes up. 
Haha, I think they need some guidance in how girl's think.


Anyway, that's my tidbit for today. 
Hope you're having a lovely weekend! 

90 comments

Jessica said...

thanks so much for stopping by! i grew up with three brothers so i often had guy friends growing up and they do have interesting perspectives! i agree with you though i don't think it is so much having to top the things you do as it is just being respectful and caring in the every day :)

-Jessica
http://runninginsideus.blogspot.com/

Sandra said...

Hello sweetie, thanks for your kind comments on Blasfemmes :)

Loved to read your insights about men's brains. Oh well...:)
Warmer weather is infecting my outfits choices too!

With love,

Sandra @ Blasfemmes.com

WearAbouts said...

I always love reading what you have to say Linda! You're kind of like a role model with all of your inspiration :)
LOVE the shoes. They've been sending you some pretttyyy rad stuff! good luck in your trig final next week...i'm taking trig too and I might just "get sick" the day of my final :P
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Miss K said...

Pretty necklace and shoes!

Jing Qi said...

great wedges! I love talking to my guy friends too, opens new perspectives to how they think! hehe :)

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Lisa said...

Your wedges are so cute and your convo with your guy friends was funny, but it did make me think. Guys have so many other things to worry about that I don't realize.

-Lisa
The Lovely Memoir

Melanie said...

Cute wedges! Haha, guys are much more simpleminded than us girls. But its the thought that counts. My boyfriend is always very sweet. Sometimes it makes me think I dont do enough for him!

xx,
Melanie
Http://aetherlily.blogspot.com

indie by heart said...

Cute heels! ^^ That dress is really lovely, also adore all your jewellery.. Nice job :>

Have a lovely weekend!

Satu
Indie by heart

Mia said...

Amazing wedges!:)


With love,Mia

Lucie Srbová said...

You look simply gorgeous!!! your dress is so sweet and I am crazy about your shoes!!! Also loe yout denim jacket with it!!!

Kisses, Lucy:)

Rachel, Cold Knees said...

the wedges are so cute!! Love how you've styled them and the denim vest :) xx

Ruth Logan said...

Love your outfit, the jewellery is lovely!

Ruth xxxx

Anne-Claire Poupon said...

Nice shoes!!
Thank you for your sweet comment!

Take care :)

Analisa said...

I love hearing perspectives from the guy side, so interesting and I really agree with what you said! This is such a cute outfit as always and you look so pretty! :)

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Tessa: said...

Love the denim vest

Valentina said...

Really cute outfit, I am LOVING those flower wedges!

x
Valentina de Pertis

CuteDumpling said...

Adorable outfit! Great blog! :D Following you now.. ;)

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xoxo

Fashion Lookbook said...

The floral wedges are so cute.

April Cheung said...

cute floral wedges!

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kathy said...

haha yay, i'm glad that you actually read my posts :)
i completely agree with you (even though i don't exactly have much experience with guys), i would much not have my affection 'bought' through presents and stuff. but i would still want to date a sweet guy, but by a sweet guy i mean a nice and caring guy. i don't think that a guy is sweet just because he buys you crap haha. to me, a guy is sweet if he's there for you even when you don't really need him to be there and if he's willing to listen to you, even though he doesn't really want to hear you rant on and on about random crap.
anyway, i love your outfit! the wedges are gorgeous
xxx

Sabrilett said...

Well it kinda makes sense what your friends said, though I think is not about being mean but just not be thaaaaat romantic all the time, there are acts of affection that girls usually ignore, but I guess everyone's different and so are the behaviors and thoughts... what ever, loved your wedges <3 so cute and you definitely are super girly lately,is good to change a bit sometimes but is always your style :) the dress is gorgeous <3

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Kristen said...

you always have such fabulous shoes!
as for the theory on constant adoration, I definitely think it gets old after a while. Their was one specific situation where this kid was the nicest guy I had ever met but he was so nice all the time that after a while it just didn't seem genuine. I actually had to tell him to stop complimenting me because it got so annoying! I think it just looses something after a while... : /

Theresa said...

Guys...are interesting.. I don't think we'll ever understand them fully. Sometimes I think they are a little more complicated than girls! i guess they do have a point; however, I personally like a guy that's just generally nice - i mean, don't overdo it.. but don't be completely bipolar and act nice and then a totally jerk the next moment because that's not entirely attractive anyway. boys.. haha
As for your outfit, it is completely adorable.. YOU HAVE THE BEST SHOES EVER! I love all your shoes in your outfits!!! (:

-theresa
collaredblouse.blogspot.com

Iqra said...

I love the chic touch the denim vest and floral wedges add to this dress, you look lovely as always !

Regarding your conversation with your guy friends, there's actually a whole science of evolutionary biology behind human mating behavior (I just coincidentally finished writing a paper on it 5 min ago). Males act that way with showering girls with gifts because females search for mates who will offer them the most resources so that when they mate they'll be able to be with someone who will support the offspring and not ditch and go (because essentially our evolutionary drive is to reproduce even though we're the only mammals that have sex for pleasure). There's this book called Sex at Dawn and The Red Queen they both do a great job exploring these topics, it's material that'll make you ponder about relationships in a very insightful way :)

hope all is well, and hope I didn't bore u with my geek-nerd side ;)
xx,
Iqra

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sabrina maida said...

omg , looking cute and casual. i love your style and wait , love your wadges too

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Benlovesting said...

So cute!! <3

Mrs C said...

Hi! Thanks for swinging by my blog! Really appreciate it. That is one fun shoes, love them and I am in the with the one in your blog 'heading' or title, the blue wedges! Who are they from? Just gorgeous! Come back and visit me again sometime and I will definitely do the same :)

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Rory said...

great outfit, love your dress :) and the shoes are sooo cute :)))

UnA said...

ahh so lovely!

:)

Chloe, Wardrobe Quarry said...

I love the vest and all the accessories.

Wardrobe Quarry

SHOP STYLE CONQUER said...

omg cute outfit! and cool post haha do your guy friends read your blog?

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Jess said...

beautiful shoes! really i need some floral heels myself :) love how your nails match them too :) cute write-up. its true though, and it goes both ways. i used to do all sorts of special things for my boyfriend til i realized it just wasn't being as appreciated the more time went on. so now i only do something out of the ordinary nice once in a blue moon and he gets really happy haha <3

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JANICE G said...

nice floral shoes! :)

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Mica said...

Love those floral wedges! :) they look fab with this casual outfit.

The love talks is so interesting! I think they have it a little wrong - I'd hate to be with someone who ignores me one day and is too sweet to me the next! They have to be themselves :) That way they don't have to put up an effort or get too tired out trying to be something they are not. :)
You don't need grand gestures or gifts to be sweet and nice and to be appreciated - the little things make a difference, just like you said :) A few compliments go a long way. I like that my husband still tells me I'm pretty even when I'm not - I'd take little things like that over being showered with gifts every day. :)

Jazzy E (Hivenn) said...

So cute. x hivenn

Mik said...

Really cute shoes!

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Grace said...

Those floral heels are so pretty! And great way to pair a vest like that.

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Kat said...

aww such cute wedges!!! theyre sooo pretty!!!!! andlove your dress! :)

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Minnie said...

great outfit and the theory is so true!!
sometimes the guys have to be bad boys :)

Sparkle said...

those shoes are gorgeous. love them.
that dress is so girly and pretty.

xx

Vicky said...

Thank you very much, I'm flattered :)
Your dress is girgeous, I really need to buy more dresses.
xx

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Vicky said...

*gorgeous

Romina Rose May said...

Great shoes and accessories! :) You really look so good! :) Best wishes from Germany

LoveT. said...

Gorgeous! Love the Shoes :)
Cute Blog ,could we follow each other? :)

Lovely Greetings!

Jasmine of ❤AdamAlexMommy❤ said...

those are fabulous wedges! i'm a huge wedge-type of a gal. love your vest, and your look is perfecion. :)

xoxo
jasmine
AdamAlexMommy

Anna Brain said...

You are sooooo beautiful!! :)

Audrey Allure said...

Those are such gorgeous wedges!

Thania said...

Thank you for your comment!! Gorgeous post!!
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Joyce said...

Your shoes are so gorgeous, I love the floral print! And the denim vest with pink dress combo is wonderful, love love love this outfit :)

ASZIYA said...

such a cute dress. you look fab!

Sarah Stright said...

I love listening to the way a guys mind works. And I do agree with them on one end- it seems like if they do sweet things, a girl always expects them to top what they did last. I say just appreciate that they do sweet things at all. Nothing is worse than feeling unappreciated. ANYWAY, loving your dress and those shoes are fantastic! So perfect for spring.

Kim said...

I love your shoes!

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NaNa said...

cute wedges dear =)

love from the NANA girls xoxo

Style-Delights said...

LOL, thats a twisted logic - but I see the point - as they showed in the movie and the book He is not into you - girls are told from the childhood that if a guy is being mean to you - it is because he 'likes' you! LOL! go figure!!
BTW, love your wedges - so beautiful! Hope you are having a wonderful day!
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Mish Rendon said...

love the vest and the dress together! :)

Mish
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Chloe, Wardrobe Quarry said...

Thanks for the follow, I am following you back.

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Dear Girl Wallflower said...

I love all your new shoes lately and you are so lucky on these sponsorships!! I love your girly look with the denim vest, the dress feels very cool on the warm sun!

Diana said...

Wow I really love your shoes :)

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Cindi said...

What a cute outfit, the shoes are really adorable.. About your guy friends: I'm afraid they are (a little bit!) right, but in the spirit of love I don't think you should ever stop trying to make your partner happy. If he or she stops appreciating it, then they're possibly not the right one..

/Cindi

http://cherriesandsunflowers.blogspot.de/

Ines said...

I love the floral print! I'm in love with this trend!
Beautiful dress dear!
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iamprecious ♡ said...

wow! great pics,i'm so in love with your shoes! nicely. wanna follow each ther! i'm following now!


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Megan said...

Love the denim vest, I've been on the hunt for one :)

Izzy said...

your wedges are so lovely :) I've been so obsessed with floral prints on shoes lately!

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Stace said...

I agree with you - the simple gestures are what counts :)
Love those shoes :)


x Stace

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Hanna & Christel said...

really pretty outfit!

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Fashion-Bridge said...

I love this look! Love how easy and casual it is yet absolutely stylish! As well I really like a boho chic vibe in it!great accessories and of course those wedgies are absolutely stunning!

Follwoing your amazing blog dear!

Xx

Alexandra

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lindsey marie said...

The shoes.. I'm in love.

Happy I ran across your blog!

Carla Florendo said...

i love the shoes... they're super pretty and girly with all the flowers!

xo, Carla

20 York Street said...

You are so right, guys are wired differently sometimes and don't realize you don't have to buy love! =)

On a great note, your shoes are banging!


oxo

ML
@20YS
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Sunny & Star said...

You look so darling. The warm weather has definitely made me lean more toward girly pieces as well (I discuss it in my blog post today). I love your beautiful floral shoes. You now having me think I need to start looking for myself a pair as well.

Sunny Days and Starry Nights

Squared said...

wow! Pretty awesome outfit as well! The sandals look GREAT on you!

megcasson said...

I love this outfit, you look amazing!

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Always Maylee said...

I love your floral wedges, they are SO cute!

xo, Yi-chia
Always Maylee

My Cowlick said...

They keep sending you cute shoes!! <3 it!! I love whole ensemble. Well you should tell your friend...some girls loves it when boys are sweet 24/7.


Oh I forgot to tell you in the last post. Have a great summer break! I have two months off before I start work :)

xx
Amanda
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Pop Champagne said...

ohh I love those floral wedges! so fun!

Meanz Chan (Koi Story) said...

Those shoes are definitely very adorable! Also I am in love with the peachy dress and I am quite the fan of denim vests!

Dana said...

Loving those shoes! How cute and on trend!

xo
Dana
Big City Farm Girl

Marisa Violeta said...

I just love how fresh this outfit looks :)
Those floral wedges are just perfect!

Joandy said...

you look gorgeous in blush and flower, another fabulous wedges that you've got, love them all:))

mariel janina said...

Love your waistcoat, and very cute shoes too :)

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little t said...

Love this look- the wedges are so summery!

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Milk said...

i love the ring , is awesome ! :)



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Corrine/Frock And Roll said...

Such gorgeous accessories, and that little denim waistcoat is STUNNING!

Tonya said...

One of my favorites from you! The vest is soo cute! I love denim vests, they're perfect for dresses :) And that ring...LOVE!! So cute and I love the boho feel to it!

czarianonuevo said...

wow! sporting a denim vest with a pastel femme dress!! i LOVE! perfect with your floral wedges!! my fave look!

ps: i always love when you share stories like this! good point :)

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Lauren said...

cool vest babe! xx

-Lauren

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Josie said...

Really liking the vest.

And it is true what your friends say. I completely agree with them. Most (not all!) girls say they want a nice guy but they are often more attracted to assholes/deadbeats.

Why? There can be a variety of reasons such as but not limited to:
- father issues: their father wasn't there and they need a strong man in their life. They think they are with one but usually end up with some loser guy that tells her how much she means to him. When in reality he could give two shits and probably has another girl on the side. She is strung on by his words and need of love.

- mother issues: she feels like she needs to change a bad boy, make a good man out of him. She doesn't realize he will never change but she doesn't care! It's her JOB to change him!

- drama whore: Some girls just LOVE drama. They say the thing they hate most is drama but it's a lie! So they surround themselves with jerk off guys and BFF girl-frenemies. it's just a massive circle jerk of annoying drama

honestly girls dont really want a "nice" guy. they want an honest guy, someone to show them passion, love, etc. They only say "nice" because that is all they know how to describe a man. Because you can be nice and still be a lying asshole!

lol anddddd END RANT!

The Love Hanger said...

Haha! I couldn't agree with you more! They need to find different girls to date. Sweet guys are the best as long as they leave a little mystery. Don't be obvious. Be spontaneous and thoughtful. And honestly, if the girl really likes you, all of that stuff won't matter anyway. :)

Love the denim vest with this dress! Such a cute look that I would totally wear. And love those wedges! And your freshly painted toes reminds me that hubby owes me a pedicure for Mother's Day! <3

toni

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